Friday, May 1, 2015

The Power to Create a Happily Ever After

Ever since I was little I have been obsessed with books and the magical worlds that they create. I loved to be swept up in the stories of heroes whether big or small. I always waited eagerly for the very last page to see if the hero. I especially loved when happy endings involved a wedding. Often for the happily ever after to occur characters had to change. In Pride and Prejudice the 2 main characters had to change in order to fall in love. While this is a small example of change, we can also make big changes. Every hero has some sort of personal obstacle that they must overcome in order to have a happy ending. We all have less than perfect lives that leave obstacles to overcome so we can have happiness in our marriage. The obstacles could be abuse, addiction, divorce, separation, abandonment, or other fears. Just as the heroes in the books do, we too can overcome these obstacles and change our story.

“A transitional character is one who, in a single generation, changes the entire course of a lineage. The changes might be for good or ill, but the most noteworthy examples are those individuals who grow up in an abusive, emotionally destructive environment and who somehow find a way to metabolize the poison and refuse to pass it on to their children. They break the mold. They refute  the observation that abused children become abusive parents, that the children of alcoholics become alcoholic adults, that “the sins of the fathers are visited upon the heads of the children to the third and fourth generation.” Their contribution to humanity is to filter the destructiveness out of their own lineage so that the generations downstream will have a supportive foundation upon which to build productive lives.” (p. 18)
- Carlfred Broderick (1992). Marriage and the Family. New Jersey: Prentice-Hall.

As this quotes states we are the characters and we impact the ending of our story. We decide through our choices to change for the better. Our story does not end with us but lives on through our posterity. They continue the story when we pass on. No matter our background we can truly change. We can change because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. We do not have to blame our past for why we cannot be happy now or in the future. We all had less than ideal things happen in our families while growing up but we can change that. The Book of Mormon tells the account of the Stripling Warriors. These young men were incredibly valiant young men who helped preserve the Nephite nation during war. What may surprise one is that these valiant young men came from a family whose past had not been ideal. Their parents had been Lamanites meaning they had lived lives filled with iniquity such as murder. Upon accepting the gospel of Jesus Christ, these parents never looked back. They changed their children’s lives. People say we cannot change but it is an untruth. I know that we can change. I have seen so many people change. The Savior performed the Atonement so we could change our story to have a happy ending. No matter the past we have had in our family, we can make a difference for the future. The marriage we begin is a new chapter in our story. Just as any hero picks their choices and ultimately their ending so do we. We can have a happily ever after as we seek to use the Atonement every day. We need the Savior and He will help us achieve a happy ending.
Hans Brinker says, “Whether I shall turn out to be the hero of my own life, or whether that station will be held by anybody else, these pages must show.”
Let us be the hero of our own story.                              
Choose to be a transitional character and change the ending of your story.
No one else can change it.

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